Do Malignant Narcissists Care?

They only ever care when you are a new person. Something to win, something to extract supply from.
 

You make them feel good but it is only momentary before they lock you in and purposefully diminish all those wonderful qualities that they saw in you, to eliminate the threat. 
 

“Eliminate the threat?" I hear you ask? 

Yeah, that thing you keep reading about: how you're the threat. You don't fully understand it, but I do now and so I'll explain—
 

A true, full-blown narcissist is the most fragile, empty and vulnerable person you could ever meet. They don't self sooth, they don't/can't regulate their own emotions, they don't/can't look inward to work on their own self.
 

In order to feel validated, powerful, to feel special, omnipotent and to have any purpose at all, they look to others to fulfil this by garnering people that uphold their false self and simultaneously destroying those who question it. (or more accurately, those who make the narcissist question their false self.)
 

So why doesn't it make sense to a person who doesn't have a personality disorder?
 

When YOU enter into a relationship, be it friendship, romance (or long term relationships which you are born into such as family) YOU do so from a good place.
 

What's a "good place" emotionally to meet someone In? 

I believe it is like this—
 

When YOU enter the relationship:

—You are Open 

—You are Honest

—You are Yourself

—You are Excited to have met a new person and you want to see where the relationship goes. 

—You're in the moment and you're experiencing something (someone) new.
 

The narcissist is not in the same place as you. 

I believe this is more along their line of thought—
 

When THEY enter the relationship:

—They are NOT open and keep many things that they "do not believe will appeal to you" HIDDEN
 

—They are at BEST only 50% honest. They give many, many half truths.
 

—They are NOT themselves. Not fully.They are mostly playing a character that they believe you will like and are mirroring you.
 

—They are excited to meet someone new to impress and to receive attention from.
 

—They KNOW where they want this relationship to go.
 

—They want to secure you in as main supply (partner/marriage) or as side supply (harem/affair) for you to fulfill all their needs emotionally and physically.
 

—They are not interested in you as a person and instead see HOW your good qualities will serve them.
 

See the difference? 

One is honest, one is calculated.
 

One is hopeful that things will naturally move in the right direction, the other KNOWS that there is only ONE direction you as supply can go.
 

There is no room for YOU because you are not in a nurturing relationship. It is almost orchestrated.
 

You're just a piece of art in their gallery and you either do your job (make them look good) or you don't.
 

Idealized or devalued. 

No in between. 

No give and take.

It’s all about them.
 

When you fail to live up to their standards:

(and if in doing so you unknowingly show them for what they truly are - NARCISSISTIC INJURY) You are their enemy. They are now in a competition with you and THEY HAVE TO 'WIN.'
 

Why do they do this? To stop the threat.

They can't control you, you can't serve THEM.. so they tell you that you're the biggest loser, the biggest pile of crap in the world so that YOU now feel worthless.

They adopt your traits to BEST you (which also makes them feel better) and continue in their attempt to destroy you. 
 

If you think the narcissist cared for you in the beginning and you think they treated you badly out of some misguided notion that love and hate are linked. Normally, there is a fine line between the two. With a narcissist it is different.
 

They never loved you and they never hated you. You were either with them or against them. That day you met them you actually met an enemy disguised as a friend.

Source: Anonymous Author (Opinion Article/Comment)